Instead of actualizing my queer desires, I actively chose to deny myself of my true sexuality and suppressed my longing to be with women.Mostly I did this because I did not believe that others would accept me, but also because I had not yet accepted myself.For some time, I have felt unease in my decision to date cis-men.Since I identify as a queer-femme, I’ve often asked myself — how do I navigate my queerness and my sexuality when I choose to date, what appears to society, as a heteronormative relationship?As a result of the assumptions that are made based off our appearances, I often feel like my sexually is negated.
In this paper we begin to address this gap by reporting on a small research project that examined five young heterosexual women’s experiences of using Tinder in New Zealand.
Most of Singles Around Me's users are between the ages of 25 and 50, with the USA home to nearly a quarter of a million downloaders - and the site is keen to tout that most cities worldwide host its users.
While an initial judgement of the service may be to compare it to something of a heterosexual Grindr - the tool that geographically links gay users, often for casual sex - Mr Klotz has found that his app has 'become much more main stream'.
Fifty million people are estimated to use Tinder across 196 countries and the app is particularly popular among young people (Yi, 2015).
Due to its huge popularity, Tinder has attracted great media attention (Newall, 2015), focusing on not only Tinder’s features, but also debates about its place in society (Dating NZ, n.d.).
For most of my life, I’ve struggled with being bisexual.