Oh, if I could only count the number of times I’ve heard clients recount stories about the annoying games men and women play in dating.Grab your cup of coffee or glass of wine, ladies and gentlemen, because we’re about to get into it!By the end, she'd reply almost immediately, which of course led me to conclude that the whole slow response thing at the beginning was purely intentional.
The first step to emotionally surviving dating games is to understand the most common ones. The bad news is they are also scared, and they push real intimacy or commitment away. The good news is that they, like us, usually really do want true love, and down deep they realize that they’d be happier, more content and more sexually satisfied if they had a good relationship. Believe it or not, they also fear rejection and abandonment. Men play out unconscious and conscious games which create a maddening push-pull with your heart. Men fear being overwhelmed and taken over in an all-consuming coupleship.
My natural instinct, of course, was to assume I was doing something wrong.