Sadly, Christians are consistently guilty of compromise in this area.
In my talk on dating I tell people that there is so much more to dating then just going out to a movie.
One tool to use to gain discernment into your unique situation is to ask insightful questions.
From the days of the Greek philosophers, the art of asking appropriate questions as a teaching strategy was regarded as a mark of a master teacher.
It was a really tough question “Is there anything in your past that I should be aware of? What questions do you have about money after this conversation? I had someone email me after one of my dating talks. Do you also give any offerings when you feel led to give? Are you going to pool your money or lead separate financial lives? On the way home from the conference he went to my website and found the questions below which are also on my website. Do you pay credit cards off at the end of each month? What is your attitude with borrowing money to buy things before you actually have the money? It signifies the commitment and love you have for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.While having the strong feelings of love towards someone is essential to getting married, other factors are important to consider before walking down the aisle.
From the way some young Christians talk, it is clear there’s a misconception that marriage solves the problem of lust. Repeated sexual sin, pornography use, and lack of self-control when dating will surely follow a person into marriage if not dealt with and repented of. It has often been said that how a man treats his mother and sister reveals how he will eventually treat his wife.