hmm, yes, just a little bit, but there is more to it. One of the first things I learned about a German man is that he can cry.
I mean, a lot, of happiness and sadness, and they aren’t ashamed of that.
As well as writing more than a dozen books on love and relationships, including the acclaimed “The Dream Prince Trap - covering the danger of searching for the perfect partner” - Hegmann is also a relationship counsellor for singles and couples.
We asked him about the most important things to look out for for expats dipping a toe into the German dating waters. Don't get hung up on cultural differences Your experience of dating is not going to be wildly different from one country to another — especially in Europe.
If 10 years ago someone had told me that I would be married to a German, I would laugh. Well, life is REALLY full of surprises, not only I married a German who speaks German, but one that also speaks my language too, Portuguese. Yes, our 3-year wedding anniversary is tomorrow, and while this post is being published, we are celebrating this day in Paris.
A husband who actually speaks that crazy language that sounds more like cursing, drinks lots of beer and only eats potatoes and sausages?
Keep in mind that everyone is an individual and there is no sure fire way to know how each will react to different circumstances.
if there’s any genuine connection between two people, it’ll survive whatever differences may arise in the early stages of dating, and if those differences seem too overwhelming and/or the relationship doesn’t survive for other reasons, trying to make too many adaptations in the early stages is NOT going to help!
The most that any such “advice” can normally do is perhaps to spare an occasional bruised feeling that might result from a minor misunderstanding.
And where German and American cultures are concerned, the potential for culturally-based misunderstandings is relatively negligible, so if two people aren’t open-minded enough to try to work through such insignificant differences, the relationship doesn’t stand a snowflake’s chance in hell of surviving anyway.” However for most people whose sweetheart is German, a foreigner, there are plenty of cultural nuances and minor difficulties resulting sometimes in an alienation. Let’s listen again to Lynne, the expert in human relations in general and in relations with a German man in particular.
“It's all about finding structures and new ways to break those barriers.” One of the things you might be doing wrong is simply not talking to the people you'd like to get to know.
“Most singles say, I'm single because I'm too shy and waiting for the other side to make the first move,” Hegmann said. They'll be grateful and honour the fact that you took a risk.” In the study, 36 percent of German men said that shyness had had a role in keeping them single – much higher than the EU average of 27 percent. Don't worry about technology stealing your love away “Dating is getting a bit different now because we are online 24/7,” Hegmann said.
So forget what you’ve heard about all the Germans being cold and mean.