This is because children are self-referencing: they believe themselves to be the cause of everything. Barring abuse, untreated substance addiction, severe mental health issues, or other child-endangering factors, your children still need to spend time with, love, and respect both parents, even if one has been acting less than lovely or trustworthy.This means they need to be shielded from explanations like, “your dad is a lazy bum” or “your mom is crazy.” They need a fuzzy explanation, such as, “we just can’t get along, and we will both be happier in separate homes.” If they ask for more information, you can always play the “I’ll tell you more when you are older” card.
So it is important to consider several factors when making the decision to introduce a new significant other to your children.
and those who casually date exhibit “the strongest effects of parental divorce, suggesting that the repercussions of parental divorce may be in place before the young adults form their own romantic relationships.” The divorce of their parents makes dating and romance more difficult for children as they reach adulthood.
Parental divorce horrifies young adults’ heterosexual relationship experiences though the connection is more evident for women than for men, according to one study.
One study showed that individuals whose parents divorced were more likely than individuals whose parents remained married to believe that relationships were beset by infidelity and the absence of trust, and they were also more likely to believe that relationships should be approached with caution.
In Sweden, where parental rejection is very high, no significant differences were found between individuals from divorced and intact families in their attitudes towards marriage and divorce.